When you are talking with a friend about things that really matter to him, you cannot shake off a feeling that you are actually talking to yourself. On such occasions, the best you can hope for is that your friend cannot shake off a feeling that he, too, is but listening to himself. In other words, you can only hope that your friend will soon forget that you have ever talked about things that really matter to him. As well as that all such things will forever remain his secret.